Your engagement era: How to actually enjoy being engaged (without loosing your mind)
There’s a moment right after the proposal somewhere between the champagne popping and the first “when’s the date?” question, where it hits you… we are engaged. It’s exciting, emotional and a little surreal… and then suddenly it can feel overwhelming. From venues to budgets, guest lists to group chats, the engagement period can quickly turn form magical to mildly chaotic. But here’s the truth: being engaged isn’t just a to do list, it’s a season of your relationship and it deserves to be enjoyed! So lets talk about how to actually do that!
Budget conversations need to be had
Money can be one of the trickiest parts of wedding planning, not just the numbers but what they represent. Expectations, family input, values. Avoiding the conversation doesn’t make it easier. Having it openly does! A healthier approach is to be honest about what you can afford. Be clear on what matters to you both. Dont compare your wedding to anyone else’s! There’s no right way to spend on a wedidng, only what’s right for you!
Its both of Your weddings… not just one!
This might sounds ovious, but it still comes up all the time. one partner ends up taking the lead, while the other fades into the background. But the best weddings? They feel like both people. That means both voices being heard, both opinions being respected, both people feeling part of the process. Whether that looks like splitting tasks or making deciosns together, the key is balance!
Your suppliers matter more than you think
One of the biggest takeaways from our podcast chats with industry experts? Your suppliers can make or break your wedding experience. You’re not just hiring a service, you’re choosing people who will guide you, support you, problem solve behind the scenes and bring your vision to life. So go beyond portfolios, look for personality , communication and trust!
Don’t forget what you’re actually doing
Or why youre doing it. It soundsismple but its easy to loose sight of the fact… you’re getting marries! Not just hosting beautiful day. Not just throwing a party. You’re committing your life to someone. so when things feel stressful or overwhelming, come back to that. The wedding is one day, the marriage is everything after!
Final thought- There’s no perfect wedding!
Social media will only show you the highlights. Perfect tables, flawless dresses, Pinterest worthy everything! But real wedding ? They’re a little messy. a little unpredictable. and completely unique! And honestly that’s what makes them brilliant! So plan it. Enjoy it. Laugh through it and dont forget to actually be engaged while you are engaged!
If you’re in the thick of planning right now, take this as your reminder: You’re allowed to slow down, enjoy the process and do things your way! Because at the end of it all, it’s not about perfect ction, it’s about the two of you!
And that’s the whole point!
Love,
Totally Absolutely Engaged x